Emotions Are Alive
By Lezah Young
When someone is disconnected from his or her emotions, for example having difficulty acknowledging anger, sadness, or fear, those emotions can become stuck inside the body. I call these feelings “frozen feelings.” Emotions can become lodged inside the person and light up in my mind’s eye as pictures in the person’s energy field and in his or her home. Emotions are alive; they are powerful sources of energy that can envelop a space permanently, even after the person has left that environment.
Sometimes, in addition to having emotions suppressed in the body, one projects them into the environment or onto other people, such as spouses or children. This can have damaging effects on those people and one’s relationships with them. It creates confusion and can impose a kind of invisibility on the recipients of projections.
A young couple named Mark and Sally called me to set up a session because Mark feared he had been seeing a ghost at their house. He described this ghost as an older, gray-haired man in his 60s wearing a red-and-white-checkered shirt. While glancing through the curtains in his upstairs bedroom window, Mark often saw this figure wandering around his yard near the garage and garden tools. When I asked him if he had any feelings before, during, or after seeing the image, he said he felt somehow safe in a weird way yet strangely uncomfortable. He said it was unsettling and he was concerned about his son and daughter.
Sally confessed her concern regarding their 3-year-old son, who had seen and been frightened by seeing the ghost in his bedroom. I asked Sally what was going in their marriage. Could she characterize it as a happy relationship? She was silent for a moment, and I felt their discomfort with this question. I could hear them adjusting themselves in their chairs.
Sally said they had had financial trouble for months, ever since Mark had changed jobs. She said he had become withdrawn and short tempered whenever she approached him. Mark was defensive and I felt he was hiding something from Sally. I saw it in his stomach area, sometimes called the power center. He was hiding his fear. He was hiding his fear of not feeling adequate as a man. I saw that he had been hiding this for a long time. I delivered this observation to them and paused to let them process it. I felt the tension rise before I felt a release, and then a sigh came from Mark.
I continued to look at the energy of the situation, and it became clear that the image they were seeing, of the older man in the red-and-white-checkered shirt, was a projection of Mark’s. I told them that I saw that it was a part of Mark that he couldn’t own and that he longed for. Sally said that Mark often looked up to older men as father figures. I saw that this being whom he was seeing was like the father he never had but desperately wanted to be. Looking more deeply revealed some of Mark’s projected fears hovering across their son’s back. This 3-year-old was carrying some of his beloved father’s fears, and anger, in hopes that he might heal his father or lift his burdens so Mark would be able to love him. I also saw and then revealed to them that their daughter carried sadness, perhaps Sally’s sadness.
I asked Mark if any of this was familiar—had he done this with his father too? “Yes, my father was critical and cold most of the time and I remember wanting him to love me.” Mark continued telling me that he had wanted to give his children a more loving father than he had had but that he gets worried. He said that when he gets worried about money and his job, he has trouble feeling happy when seeing their faces. When he sees their faces looking back at him, with smiles and hope, he wants to give them more than he fears he can.
I asked Mark to describe the male qualities of the ghost he’d been seeing. He said, “He is strong and competent. He knows how to work and clearly understands tools, which is why he gravitates toward mine. And he looks secure in his manhood.” I ask Mark if he thinks he could mimic those qualities and would he feel comfortable asking this image that he has created to help him learn to be the man he wants to be? “After all,” I said to Mark, “you have created this image and imbued it with attributes that you already have but haven’t fully owned.” He said he thought he could do that.
I did as much energy work on the family as I could, and then I encouraged Mark and Sally to talk to each other more about their parenting goals and about the qualities they want in their marriage. I suggested that Mark find a men’s support group, where he could work on his self-esteem along with his parenting skills.
Energy healing is deeply powerful and clarifying confusion is freeing. Intuitive work has profound and lasting results.
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