Exposing and Shedding the Unconscious Lies That Ruin Our Chances for Fulfillment and Love

By Perry Mills and Kelly La Sha


In these prophetic times approaching 2012, we have an unprecedented and urgent opportunity to examine any errant beliefs that we may have unconsciously absorbed from our cultural heritage, faulty parenting, religions, science, and the various tenets of the “New Age.” The inconsistencies and contradictions within the theories surrounding issues of meaning, self-fulfillment, and even our very physical survival have created a great deal of confusion. If truth leads us to peace, then what we’ve known hitherto is more akin to lies. And instead of peace, these well-intended lies have led us instead into personal and cultural contradictions that fuel competition, disillusionment, and an array of fears that effectively blind us and bind us from our natural selves.

In a series of articles and workshops, we will be exploring both the perceived gains and hidden liabilities of aligning with inadequate beliefs and paradigms that, upon closer examination, exert limiting constraints on our most soulful capacities. We will be taking a closer look at very entrenched ideas about God, the soul, worthiness, eternity, love, enlightenment, duality, ego, time, and much more. We will be deconstructing the meanings of these and other concepts in an attempt to expose more worthy definitions of them, because the current definitions appear lifeless and worn.

As an example, let’s do a miniature deconstruction of the idea of “fulfillment.” It is easy to project our general visions of what fulfillment might look like without examining the hidden sources of our desires. The general assumption is that satisfaction is accomplished by filling certain material requirements. But the fulfillment we seek is most times an emotion, not necessarily tied to material conditions. A small exploration into our version of success may reveal more basic requirements of, let’s say, peace, happiness, or inspiration. Those root desires may be impossible to fulfill with our original surface assumptions. We could ostensibly manifest all of the material requirements and feel no sense of fulfillment.

To continue, let’s take a deeper look at John Doe’s strong desire to own an expensive-model Mercedes-Benz. He thinks that acquiring the car will make him feel better, but why? His answer to that question may be hiding unconscious motives that aren’t apparent. He may argue that the quality and craftsmanship and style are what he admires and wants. And though that may be partially true, other layers of meaning are in his motive that he may not admit or even consciously know. It could have something to do with his father, who disagreed with his career choices and told him that he wouldn’t amount to a “hill of beans.” It could have been the thousands of ads on television and elsewhere suggesting that his worth relied on being wealthier than the average man. It could be that the car might mask the unsightly birthmark on his cheek that he is sure is the reason he can’t find a suitable love interest. It could be a way to be better than who he actually believes he is, as if he could somehow fool himself. All of these possible hidden motives are fueled by wounds that drive the desire. The car cannot heal these wounds. An examination and deconstruction of these lies about his self-worth is the only way to heal and create a value system that leads to true fulfillment. Then he can buy that Mercedes for his original reason.

We have adopted most of our beliefs, unwittingly and innocently absorbing them, without knowing that what seemed like the right decision at the time had hidden liabilities—the main liability being the source of all of our unnecessary suffering: the grand lie of unworthiness. Our tendency up to now has been to clutch onto this lie for the artificial safety of denial and avoidance of our creative power. As the famous quote of Mary Ann Williamson states, “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

These disempowering paradigms that are embedded in our unconscious programs come from simply being innocently born into a culture. This implores us to question the true nature of freedom. Living a life based on an automatic culture that you were born into is akin to being born into a labyrinth of ditches and living your whole life in the narrow tracks of trenches. Imagine for the first time climbing a ladder to see the 360-degree horizon that you had been missing out on all along. Examining where our beliefs and desires come from gives us freedom and power to actively choose a value system that supports the health and true freedom of humanity.

Our current culture is based on fallacies that lie within imperialism, materialism, scarcity, and competition. Such disempowering paradigms have less to do with the well-being of the individual and health of the community at large and more to do with convenience and social engineering for the benefit of a few. It is further supporting the densities of fear that block us from our natural state of peace and harmony and may even eventually lead to the expiration of our race.

Awareness is the path of freedom from the lies that bind us. At this doorway of creation, we have the opportunity to ask ourselves deeper questions about our value systems so we can give priority to what gives soulful fulfillment and to the receiving of the love that we are all thirsty for.

Along this path we will explore the fundamental values and origins underneath our current priorities and desires. Our overall intention is to uncover our true souls’ intent versus the ego structure that has built its value system from a materially focused culture.

So if you are interested in experiencing more freedom and fulfillment of your deepest heart-based dreams, join us on this exploration of deconstructing the lies and contradictions within our culture, religions, and scientific beliefs. Our next article will be “Deconstructing Truth.” If you would like to contribute to our discussion and our future articles, we welcome you to visit our blog discussion panel at www.liquidmirror.org/blog.